On Boundaries

I know for some people in life, boundaries may sound like a foreign concept. Growing up in my household where boundaries were a foreign concept and emotional entanglement was the par, I didn't feel comfortable or supported emotionally. Not feeling good through my childhood led me to be confused about what the right relationships looked like for me as an adult.

When it came time for me to choose who was in my life or not, I didn’t know how to tell right from wrong. What allowed me to escape that was doing the things I wanted to daily; following my instincts led me to trust my feelings and to differentiate right from wrong. This led me to set boundaries with others; at the time, I didn't call them that. I just knew that my body needed a break from someone, and I trusted that the universe was leading me towards good by teaching me to determine how to align my life.

I realized that I could only do things that harm me for so long, including giving certain people access to me. It let me see that others’ not respecting my boundaries was due to them not respecting themselves, and if I wanted to have respect in my life, I had to be the decider of which energies have access to me. 

I learned that sacrificing your health at another’s expense isn’t admirable, as it harms you. If setting a boundary with someone causes you to lose them, their energy is not in alignment with you.

You are taking care of yourself, and you are free. That’s what matters.

That fills you with light, it allows you to breathe. It lets you see that you are more than your bad days, and lets you give love to yourself.

You can love yourself through kindness, grace, and sympathy. You can hold your hand through a bad day saying that there will be better ones, and not to worry. That no matter what happened, or what you did “wrong,” it doesn't reflect on your worth. None of it does. And coming from a place of love for yourself, you are able to see the world so much more clearly.

Treat  you how your angels would treat you. And extend that out to others, and the universe.